7 Steps to Inner Peace

Inner Peace

Inner Peace

Do you yearn for inner peace? Is your life out of control? Are your emotions all riled up? You are not alone. Many, many people are feeling the same way – they are all seeking some inner peace yet they do not know how to find it. Lots of people just search and search but come up with nothing except frustration which separates them even further from the inner peace they are seeking. Is that true of you too? Maybe people are looking in the wrong place. This article will help you focus where you will

Do you yearn for inner peace? Is your life out of control? Are your emotions all riled up? You are not alone. Many, many people are feeling the same way – they are all seeking some inner peace yet they do not know how to find it. Lots of people just search and search but come up with nothing except frustration which separates them even further from the inner peace they are seeking. Is that true of you too? Maybe people are looking in the wrong place. This article will help you focus where you will find the inner peace you are looking for.

First, inner peace can not be found outside of you. It can not be purchased in a store, it can not be provided by love or sex, it does not flow from accumulated wealth, it can only be found within you. It can be found but it will take some work. Here are some steps you can take to cultivate your inner peace.

  1. Identify your values. Select the top ten and prioritize them. Figure out how much time you spend on each one. Are some of them lop-sided? Try to adjust your schedule so you are spending more time on your most important values.
  2. List your goals for the next six months. Check them against your values to be sure they are aligned. If they are not aligned then you should not be doing them. Create new goals that align with your values.
  3. Make a list of the most important traits that you see in other people. Select the ones you would like to have yourself. Work to make these part of your everyday behaviors.
  4. By now you should be living your values, goals and personality traits. You should also be feeling better about yourself. You are ready for the next step.
  5. Work on your self awareness by writing in a guided journal. You can get The Discovery Journal at lulu.com. It is designed to increase your self-awareness through responding to sentence starters that have you look at yourself, your assumptions and your beliefs.
  6. Be authentic. Work to be true to yourself. Make decisions that you think are right and stick to them. Live in integrity.
  7. Summon your higher self. You have identified it through all of the exercises you just went through. Your higher self is all of the good things you represent. Let yourself be guided by the Universe to do what is right and good. You should now be feeling centered and serene.

Peace be with you!

you are looking for.

First, inner peace can not be found outside of you. It can not be purchased in a store, it can not be provided by love or sex, it does not flow from accumulated wealth, it can only be found within you. It can be found but it will take some work. Here are some steps you can take to cultivate your inner peace.

  1. Identify your values. Select the top ten and prioritize them. Figure out how much time you spend on each one. Are some of them lop-sided? Try to adjust your schedule so you are spending more time on your most important values.
  2. List your goals for the next six months. Check them against your values to be sure they are aligned. If they are not aligned then you should not be doing them. Create new goals that align with your values.
  3. Make a list of the most important traits that you see in other people. Select the ones you would like to have yourself. Work to make these part of your everyday behaviors.
  4. By now you should be living your values, goals and personality traits. You should also be feeling better about yourself. You are ready for the next step.
  5. Work on your self awareness by writing in a guided journal. You can get The Discovery Journal at lulu.com. It is designed to increase your self-awareness through responding to sentence starters that have you look at yourself, your assumptions and your beliefs.
  6. Be authentic. Work to be true to yourself. Make decisions that you think are right and stick to them. Live in integrity.
  7. Summon your higher self. You have identified it through all of the exercises you just went through. Your higher self is all of the good things you represent. Let yourself be guided by the Universe to do what is right and good. You should now be feeling centered and serene.

Peace be with you!

7 Self Improvement Tips That Can Make A Difference

Self Improvement

Self Improvement

For those who have been through it, they will tell you that self improvement is a journey. It all depends on where one is starting from. The most important thing however is getting that first step out of the way.

Self improvement comes with the fulfillment that comes from understanding oneself. It is through this understanding that you get to know your place in the universe and your role here. You get to understand that not everything has to be a struggle; you can be successful, rich and happy and fulfil your mission.

As I have studied self improvement over the years, I have picked out 7 self improvement tips that are a must for you to implement so that you can see yourself started on the journey of personal growth. I am going to share them with you in this article.
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Dealing With Anxiety, Fear and Panic

Anxiety

Anxiety

Worrying about money, being anxious about job security, worrying about children, fearful of personal security, feeling inadequate – these are the things that occupy the normal mind. Unfortunately, psychology has proven time and time again that the normal mind is plagued by negative thought. This negativity is formed in the subconscious – that part of the mind that was inculcated with this form of negative thinking during our formative years – and is fed by the ubiquity of bad news, negative comment and the horror stories on which the mass media thrive. We are surrounded – from within and without – by negativity.

For many, that negativity leads to anxiety – we become anxious about all the things that we don’t want to befall us. Anxiety often leads to fear – again, fearful of the things that we don’t want to happen. And, for some, that anxiety can lead to outright panic – and that panic often overtakes us without any prior warning.

The first thing that you need to realize is that, if you are feeling anxious, fearful or panicked, it has nothing to do with you – it is the product of an over-active personality. Your personality – the person that you think you are – is a fiction comprised of all the psychological ‘snapshots’ that you took during your formative years. You took snapshots of events that made an impression on you at the time and, now, your subconscious mind is using those snapshots to create what you perceive to be your reality. And, because your subconscious automatically pours your energy into these negative emotions, you generally end up proving yourself right – you were right to worry, right to be anxious, right to be fearful – your life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Psychology tells us that we can only perceive and experience what we expect to perceive and experience. In other words, if we change our expectations, our experience of life will change. This, however, is easier said than done because, as I have already said, not only is your subconscious mind occupied by the long-term squatters of negative thought, you are surrounded by other people who are similarly minded. It is difficult to believe that life could be so different.

What you have to do is start re-building your innate ability to ignore useless, self-sabotaging and negative thought by redirecting your attention to what is real. Reality is only to be found in the here and now. To be blunt, this breath could be your last – you had better get on with experiencing, living and capitalizing upon the wonder of the here and now. The real here and now is a place where anxiety, fear and panic are simply not. It is a place where real action is taken – action that can move your life in the right direction. It is a place where challenges are met head on – not worried about, panicked over or wallowed in.

However, there is a problem – you cannot suddenly become relaxed, focused and present bang in the midst of adversity. Try telling someone who is in the depths of despair that, in reality, the here and now is the realm of real opportunity and happiness. Try explaining this to someone who has given up on succeeding, having failed over and over. Try telling someone who is in the throes of panic that his or her panic isn’t real. It’s just not on! Instead, you’ve got to cultivate your natural ability to present, the innate capacity that we all have to appreciate, experience and live in the here and now – when it doesn’t matter, so that you can be fully focused, fully alert, fully present and fully armed, when it really does matter.

You’ve got to acclimatize your otherwise negative mind to the actual reality of the here and now. You’ve got to set time aside – diligently and in a disciplined manner – to train your mind to pay attention to reality instead of the negative circus in your head. You can start this training right away – no special fitness equipment is required! Tomorrow morning get up ten or fifteen minutes earlier than usual and deliberately take ten minutes to sit where you won’t be disturbed. Pay attention to what your five senses are actually telling you. For starters, you might cut out your visual sense – it will ease your otherwise constant mental tendency to be distracted. So, sit and listen. Focus on what you are actually hearing. Clear your mind of thought, turn off the noise in your head. Pay attention to now – not what your imaginary personality is concocting for you based on its long-held preconceived notions. Get that imposter out of the way – out of your life – and see where life might take you.

Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton

Willie Horton enables his clients live their dream – since he launched his acclaimed Personal Development Seminars in 1996. His clients include major corporations: Pfizer, Deloitte, Nestle, Wyeth, KPMG, G4S & Allergan. An Irishman, he lives in the French Alps and travels the world as a much sought after speaker and mentor. In 2008 he launched Gurdy.Net home to his Online Personal Development Seminars, Change Your Life & No More Stress

Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

The real secret is that whether you feel sad, broke, lonely, overweight, depressed, overwhelmed or hopeless, you have the power within yourself to change the way you look at life and ultimately the power to change your life.

Oftentimes we spend too much time thinking about the negative parts of our life. But what we don’t realize is that by keeping ourselves in that state of mind we are sabotaging our happiness, our future, our daily lives.

Another important point is that no one other person can make us happy. Although being around or with someone may make you feel happy, they don’t create the happiness in your heart. They don’t decide whether you feel like being happy or whether you feel like being upset or depressed.

The truth is that by changing the way you think about things you change your life.

You might be behind on your bills and sit around worrying about it or you can take a good hard look around at what you have to be thankful for. The bills haven’t gone away, you’ve just decided to change your state of mind to focus on the good in life.

You might be struggling to lose weight and sit around looking in the mirror complaining about the way you look. Or you can take a look deep within yourself and think about all the things you’re good at and all the things you have to offer. The weight is still there, but instead of focusing on a few pounds, that don’t make you who you are, you choose to focus on the great person that you are and the many things you have to offer others.

You might have lost your job and be sitting around blaming your boss for firing you. Or you can think about what you want your life to look like from this point forward. Maybe there’s a career change in your future. Maybe you’ve had a dream of working with young children or people with disabilities or becoming the manager or a retail store. This job loss is your opportunity to take a hold of your life and go after your dreams.

Once you take a look around you’ll see that it’s up to you to decide to change your state of mind. You can decide that you want to feel hurt, broke, overweight or depressed. Or you can decide that you want to feel alive, blessed, beautiful and happy. The choice is yours!

Simply by changing the way you think about any given situation you change your life. Happiness is a decision that you make. It comes from within you. It is up to you and only you to make that decision and to live life to the fullest.

Make a choice today to be happy. Look around you and discover what you truly have that you are blessed with. Chances are you have a lot to be thankful for. Allow the happiness to flow into your body and to attract more happiness back to you.

About the Author

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Assertiveness is Self-Love

Self-Love

Self-Love

There is so much pain and grief in personal life because people are not able to say “no”. You need to know your worth to be able to say “no”. When someone offers you a job you don’t really want, just say “no”, if you agree to do something you’re not excited about, you will be leading yourself to distress. Don’t let anybody talk you into doing something against your own will, that would be acting without love for yourself.

When you have self-love, you know you are infinite possibility, have great potential and do not let anybody diminish you. It simply can’t be done. Self-love is such a powerful tool – when you use it as a decision making criterion, you will never go wrong. In fact, loving another comes from being able to love yourself. And from loving yourself comes assertiveness. It’s easy to say “no” to a job you would hate or to a toxic person or anything that is bad for you, when you have self-love.

Love is such an incredible concept, feeling, emotion, you name it – but if your jar is not full, if you don’t fill yourself with love, there is nothing to give to others. So next time somebody is offering you something detrimental, be it a relationship, job, food, drink, situation, think “self-love”. When you say “no”, don’t feel sorry for disappointing them, be loving and be absolutely certain that your decision is right. Self-love is such a great guide to doing the right thing.

There’s a great book which fills you with self-love and reveals 11 other secrets to love, happiness and personal power – it’s “Read Me – I Am Magical” available at http://www.master-of-thought.com and at Amazon.

5 Self-Confidence Tips to Feel Better in Social Situations

Self confidence

Self confidence

Do you want to know how to feel more confident in social situations? If you’re like many people, the answer is yes. All too many suffer from low self-confidence, especially when around others. Fortunately, nobody is doomed to a lack of self-confidence for life, and there are many steps you can take to feel better about yourself and more comfortable when socialising. Try following these five simple tips to begin with:

1. Remember That People Are More Interested In Themselves

Someone who is not very confident often imagines that everyone they meet is judging them harshly. In fact, the reality is that most people you meet aren’t really very interested in you at all, and are almost certainly not aware of all the flaws that you think are so glaringly obvious.

Rather, people are basically self-centered, and are more interested in themselves than they are in you. So next time you find yourself worrying about what others are thinking of you, remember that they’re probably not thinking about you at all. Chances are they’re more worried about what you’re thinking of them!

2. Dress The Part

Most of us feel better about ourselves when we look our best. This doesn’t mean spending a fortune on designer outfits or sessions at the spa, but simply paying attention to grooming, eating well and exercising regularly to stay in shape, and wearing clothes that are comfortable, flattering and appropriate to the occasion.

3. Check Your Posture

The way you carry yourself sends a message to others about how you’re feeling. Typically, people who aren’t feeling confident tend to keep their heads down with their eyes on the ground, and they also slouch their shoulders and cross their arms in a typically defensive posture. This sends a clear message to others to keep away, and won’t do you any favors in social situations.

Instead, make a deliberate effort to hold your head high, straighten your shoulders and look others in the eye when you’re talking to them. Not only will standing tall create the illusion of confidence and cause others to react more favourably, it’ll actually help you feel better too, as our state of mind is closely linked with the way we use our bodies.

4. Shut Up And Listen

A lot of people lack self-confidence because small talk and chitchat doesn’t come easily to them. Fortunately, you don’t have to be a dazzling raconteur to do well in social situations. You’ll find that many of the people you meet enjoy talking about themselves, and all you really need to do is to ask some polite questions and let them rattle away.

Show a genuine interest in the people around you, and they’ll come away from the encounter with a positive impression of your conversational skills – even though they were the ones doing most of the talking!

5. Use Visualisation

True self-confidence comes from within, and the main reason why many people lack it is because they have negative beliefs about themselves which often date back to childhood. The best way to change these beliefs is to replace them with more empowering alternatives, and visualisation is an excellent method of doing this.

To visualise effectively, take some time each day to settle down in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed, and practice seeing yourself feeling and acting as the confident person you want to be. Over time, you’ll gradually reprogram your beliefs, and your subconscious mind will come to accept your new self image.

Some people find it difficult to relax enough for their visualisation to really take root. This is unsurprising, as most of us aren’t used to really focusing on quieting the mind. Fortunately, using a brainwave entrainment recording can really help here, as these recordings contain sounds of specific frequencies which are designed to help your brain relax deeply, increasing your access to the subconscious.

To really get the most from your visualisation sessions, I recommend trying out any of the ‘Confidence Builder’ recordings from The Unexplainable Store. This site provides a range of very powerful brain wave entrainment tracks that are designed for specific purposes. The confidence tracks will help you reprogram your subconscious mind very effectively, and with some practice you can become a genuinely confident person who is comfortable in social situations. For more information just go to http://www.brain-sync.com (and remember to get your free downloads when you’re there!)

Loren Mann is an experienced ‘explorer of consciousness’ who enjoys writing about self-development topics and sharing helpful, high quality resources, and may receive compensation as a result of making these recommendations.

Learning to Focus on Our Strengths, Not Weaknesses

Confidence

Confidence

Growing up, I liked playing a lot of sports, especially hockey, soccer and football. But one sport I really hated to play was baseball. It wasn’t because I thought it was a boring sport (well, actually I do, but that’s besides the point). Instead, it was simply because I was terrible at it. No matter how many times I tried or how much I’d practice, I just wasn’t good at hitting that baseball. Naturally, I’d tell my gym teacher when we had to play baseball that it wasn’t my best sport, to which I’d invariably be told that this would be an opportunity to improve my game, to build on this weakness of mine.

Of course, this wasn’t the last time I was asked to address my weaknesses. At job interviews, I was asked not only about my strengths, but also my weaknesses and more importantly, what measures I was taking to overcome them. In my employee performance reviews, it felt at times like it was almost a requirement that some weak point be found and pointed out as something I would need to work on before the next review. On the surface, all of these experiences made sense because we are taught to believe that the way to succeed is by overcoming those tasks or abilities that we struggle to perform.

And yet, if we look at people who do succeed, a completely different viewpoint becomes apparent. Pablo Picasso was a talented painter and sculptor, but he was bad at math and apparently didn’t even learn the alphabet correctly. Usain Bolt, the three-time Olympic gold medalist who last month set a pair of new world records in the 100m and 200m dash, is clearly the best sprinter in the world. On the other hand, Bolt is not as good a cricket player, the sport he started his athletic career in. Steve Jobs, one of the founders of Apple Inc., has been credited with Apple’s many successes over the last few years. But before this, Jobs dropped out of college after six months because he lost interest in what he was learning. Each of them are considered to be not only successes in their respective fields, but also examples of what many of us would certainly love to accomplish on the scale they did.

Now if we look at each of their stories, we can see in all of them a common thread being exhibited. In each one, we see people who are not concerned with improving their weak spots. Instead, they focused on building on their strengths. Picasso knew he wasn’t good at math, or even knowing the alphabet. But instead of trying to push himself to improve his understanding of these two fields of knowledge, he focused his energies on where his talent lay – in painting and sculpting works of art. Usain Bolt didn’t work harder to become a better batsman or bowler for his cricket team; rather, he focused his training on building upon his ability to sprint fast over short distances. Likewise, Steve Jobs didn’t opt to ‘tough it out’ to complete college and get his degree, choosing instead to take a calligraphy class which he gives credit to for playing a key role in the designing of the first Mac computer.

For Picasso, Bolt, and Jobs, it was never about working on their weaknesses as it was challenging themselves to improve on their strengths. What’s also apparent in each of these examples is that they were doing what they love, in large part because they pursued areas where they knew they could accomplish the most; where they could best contribute to the greater whole. This also made whatever challenges they faced easier to take on because, despite the hardships they had to endure, they were doing the work they loved and excelled at.

In this light, it becomes clear that if we really want to be successful, our focus shouldn’t be on trying to improve those areas we typically define as our weaknesses, as this only serves to take away our energy, time and effort from pursuing what should be our real goals. In his commencement address delivered at Stanford University, Steve Jobs pointed out that we should have “the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become”. He reminds us that our life is a relatively short one and that we shouldn’t “waste it living someone else’s life”. Picasso, Bolt, and Jobs are a testament to this idea, with each of them creating lives based on the strengths they possess within them. As for the rest of us, the best place to start a similar journey is to look to our own strengths, to that which will undoubtedly lead us to a greater sense of accomplishment, satisfaction, and happiness in our lives.

You can read more articles by Tanveer Naseer on his blog at www.TanveerNaseer.com

A Simple Act of Courage

Courage

Courage

Remember when we were kids and nothing was impossible to imagine or to do? We dreamed of being a doctor, fireman, police officer. What was your “not-so-impossible-dream?” Is it still here with you?

Now that we are all grown up and life is no longer as simplistic as we used to see from a child’s eyes, have you abandoned those dreams you had? Have you been scared by the so-called “realities of life”?

Did you know that you can create your own reality and live the life you have always wanted…instead of the life someone else has planned for you? Being all grown up does not mean you have to throw up your hands in defeat and give up whatever dreams you had.

All it really takes is a simple act of courage to get your dreams back on track…to start dreaming again like you used to when you were a happy, no-care-in the-world-kid. What happened to those times?

Are you right now too afraid to look into that home business dream you always wanted to make a reality? Do you have those voices that are telling you that your dream is impossible? Are you listening to those voices?

You can drown out those negative voice with a simple act of courage. If you do that, those voice will simply cower in the face of the “you-can-do-it-voice”. That positive, courageous voice that reminds you of your childhood dreams that made you feel alive and rambunctious!

When you begin to feel that you cannot do it, just remember the simple act of courage of one brave woman in America history. A woman who refused to give up a seat that she was sitting in, because she was exhausted,after a hard day’s work. She was asked to give up her seat because they told her she did not deserve to be in that seat. She refused. This simple act of courage put the Civil Rights Movement in full gear.

That woman was Ms. Rosa Parks. Because of her simple act of courage, America is better for it today. What is your simple act of courage? Finishing that book you started? Or is it finally doing that video you have been putting off? How about finally starting that home business you have been investigating?

Whatever it may be for you, all you really need to make it happen and have it become a reality…is JUST A SIMPLE ACT OF COURAGE. Just like Rosa Parks.


About the Author

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